Key Takeaways
- Thanksgiving can be challenging for those in addiction recovery, but planning and support make it easier to stay sober.
- Creating a relapse prevention plan and focusing on new traditions or non-drinking activities can make the holiday more enjoyable.
- Loved ones can help by providing support and creating a safe, understanding environment.
Introduction
Thanksgiving brings family, food, and festivities. However, for those in recovery from drug addiction, this holiday can be overwhelming. Between social gatherings, family dynamics, and the common presence of alcohol, Thanksgiving poses unique challenges that can make it harder to stay sober.
Fortunately, Thanksgiving can be a positive and joyful experience with thoughtful planning and support. This article will share strategies for enjoying Thanksgiving while staying committed to sobriety. There are ways to navigate the holiday safely and comfortably, from setting boundaries to focusing on gratitude.
Why Thanksgiving Can Be a Trigger for Addiction Recovery
Thanksgiving gatherings are often centered around big meals and social drinking, making it easy for people in recovery to feel out of place. For someone in recovery, even a small gathering may present unexpected triggers.
One common challenge is the focus on social drinking. For many, Thanksgiving includes wine, cocktails, or beer, and it’s often expected that everyone will join in. The pressure to drink—even if unintentional—can be overwhelming for someone working hard to stay sober. Seeing others drink and being offered alcohol can stir up memories, desires, and even feelings of isolation, making it hard to stay focused on recovery.
Another potential trigger is family dynamics. Family gatherings may bring up unresolved feelings or past conflicts, significantly if relationships were affected by past substance use. Being around family members who may not understand the recovery journey can create stress, especially if the environment becomes tense or if questions about the past arise. Lastly, holidays like Thanksgiving can amplify feelings of loneliness or sadness, especially for those who may not have strong family support. This emotional weight can make staying sober more challenging.
Creating a Sober Thanksgiving Plan
Having a plan can make Thanksgiving less daunting. Setting clear intentions, boundaries, and goals for the day can help you feel prepared and confident in your commitment to sobriety.
One key step is to set boundaries. If you know specific conversations or people may be triggering, it’s okay to set limits. Let loved ones know in advance if there are topics you’d prefer to avoid. You can also set boundaries around alcohol, declining politely if someone offers you a drink or sitting away from the alcohol if that feels safer.
A relapse prevention strategy can also be helpful. Think ahead about how you’ll handle tough moments. This could mean planning a quick exit if things feel overwhelming or having a friend or family member available to call if you need encouragement. Knowing you have an “escape plan” if things get uncomfortable can provide a sense of control and calm.
If possible, consider bringing a sober buddy or sponsor to the gathering. Having someone there who understands your journey can make a huge difference. They can offer a grounding presence, help redirect conversations, or even join you on a walk if you need a break.
Focusing on Non-Alcohol Activities and Gratitude
Thanksgiving is about much more than food and drink; it’s also a time to celebrate gratitude and connection. Shifting your focus to these elements can make the day more enjoyable and fulfilling.
Try starting a few new, sober-friendly traditions. Activities like playing games, taking a family walk, or watching a favorite holiday movie can provide new ways to enjoy Thanksgiving. These activities shift the focus from food and drink to quality time and connection. Making the holiday about shared experiences rather than indulgences helps create lasting, positive memories.
Focusing on gratitude can also be powerful. Reflecting on what you’re grateful for—such as the progress you’ve made in recovery or the people who have supported you—can add a positive tone to the day. Practicing gratitude can help shift the focus from stressors to the positive aspects of your life, making it easier to stay present. Consider starting a gratitude journal or joining a family gratitude circle where everyone shares something they’re thankful for.
Self-care can be beneficial. Simple practices like deep breathing, short walks, or quiet moments can help manage anxiety and steady your mood. Prioritizing self-care on Thanksgiving ensures that you stay grounded and focused on what matters.
How Loved Ones Can Support Sobriety on Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving is a chance for friends and family to show support. Knowing how to be supportive can make a big difference for someone in recovery.
One way to help is to avoid offering alcohol or encouraging someone to drink. Sometimes, people may not realize that even casual offers can feel like pressure. Instead, offering a non-alcoholic drink option or simply respecting a “no” can make the person feel more comfortable.
Providing encouragement can also be very helpful. Family members can ask if they can do anything to help make the environment feel safe or offer a kind word of support. If there’s a moment when things feel tense, a gentle reminder of their progress or an offer to take a break can make the person feel cared for and supported.
Lastly, redirecting conversations away from triggers or sensitive topics can help create a peaceful atmosphere. It’s best to avoid questions about addiction, sobriety, or the past, as these conversations can be uncomfortable. Instead, focus on positive, holiday-related topics that include everyone, creating a welcoming environment that keeps stress low.
Conclusion
Staying sober during Thanksgiving is possible, even if it initially feels challenging. By planning ahead, setting boundaries, and focusing on the positive parts of the holiday, you can make the day enjoyable and safe. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey. With support from loved ones and a commitment to self-care, Thanksgiving can be a meaningful experience that strengthens your sobriety.
If you or a loved one is navigating the challenges of staying sober this Thanksgiving, contact Virtue Recovery Killeen at 866-843-0545. Our team is here to provide the support and treatment options for a successful recovery journey.
FAQs About Surviving Thanksgiving While Staying Sober
Why is Thanksgiving hard for people in addiction recovery?
Thanksgiving often includes gatherings centered around food and alcohol, which can be challenging for someone in recovery. Family dynamics and social pressure can add stress, making it harder to stay sober.
What can I do to prepare for Thanksgiving in sobriety?
Preparing a relapse prevention plan, setting boundaries, and bringing a supportive friend or sponsor can help you confidently navigate the holiday.
How can loved ones support someone in recovery during Thanksgiving?
Loved ones can help by avoiding alcohol offers, focusing on supportive conversations, and offering non-drinking activities to create a comfortable environment.
Is it okay to skip Thanksgiving if it feels too overwhelming?
Yes, prioritizing sobriety and mental health is crucial, and skipping the holiday if it feels too challenging can help you stay focused on recovery.
How can I stay focused on gratitude during Thanksgiving?
Engaging in gratitude practices, like journaling or sharing positive memories, can help shift focus from stress to positive aspects, making the day more enjoyable.
What are some tips for staying sober on Thanksgiving?
To stay sober on Thanksgiving, try setting clear intentions, practicing mindfulness, and bringing your own non-alcoholic drinks. Keep a support person or sponsor on call, avoid triggering situations, and remind yourself of your reasons for sobriety. Staying busy with helpful tasks, stepping outside for breaks, and setting boundaries with family can also reinforce your commitment to sobriety.
Should I make new traditions on Thanksgiving?
Creating new traditions can make Thanksgiving more enjoyable and less triggering, especially if past traditions are associated with substance use. New activities, like going for a walk, playing games, or focusing on gratitude, can bring a fresh perspective and a positive focus for the holiday.
Should I seek addiction treatment during Thanksgiving?
Yes, seeking addiction treatment during Thanksgiving can be beneficial if you’re struggling, as professional support can help you manage holiday stress and avoid relapse. Many treatment centers are available year-round, and beginning treatment now can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling holiday season.
How do I avoid triggers of substance abuse on Thanksgiving?
To avoid triggers on Thanksgiving, plan ahead by identifying potential challenges and setting boundaries with family or friends. Limit time in triggering situations, keep supportive people close, and have an exit strategy if needed. Engaging in new, sober activities can also help you stay grounded.
Should I get help if I relapse on Thanksgiving?
Yes, getting help immediately after a relapse is crucial to return to a sober path. A relapse doesn’t define your progress, and reaching out to a counselor, sponsor, or support group can provide the guidance needed to recommit to recovery.
Resources
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK551500/
https://www.va.gov/WHOLEHEALTHLIBRARY/tools/reducing-relapse-risk.asp
https://adf.org.au/reducing-risk/relapse/
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Gigi Price holds licenses as a Master Social Worker and Clinical Drug Counselor. She completed her master’s degree in Social Work at Texas State University. Over the last decade, Gigi has been dedicated to utilizing evidence-based practices to enhance patient care and treatment planning, resulting in positive, long-term outcomes for patients and their families. Her passion lies in creating a treatment environment where professionals collaborate to bring about positive change and provide a safe, trustworthy therapeutic experience. Patients can be confident in receiving top-quality care under her leadership.
In her role as the Clinical Director of Virtue Recovery Houston, Gigi conducted research to identify the most effective approaches for treating patients with acute mental health diagnoses, PTSD, and Substance Use Disorder. She then assembled a team of skilled clinicians who could offer various therapeutic modalities, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
(DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Somatic Exposure, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT). Gigi takes pride in overseeing the development and implementation of Virtue Houston’s Treatment Program, which includes two specialized therapeutic curricula tailored to the unique needs of individuals struggling with mental health issues, addiction, and PTSD.
